Narcissists Are Illusionists

Narcissists are the great pretenders and massive deceivers. Many are able to convince people that they are fantastic and that they live a fanstastic life but, that is far from the truth. Narcissists are miserable, moody and depressed individuals who hide behind possessions, fake smiles and positions. They are the illusionists and everything that they present to the masses with regards to being happy and successful is only an illusion.

An Illusion is a deceptive appearance or impression and an Illusionist is someone who produces the illusion.

Narcissists do not only have a fake image but they create a false reality around themselves. They also are guilty of future faking; where they convince themself and those around them that there is a better and brighter future ahead with them. Narcissists are very imaginative, and they are very persuasive. So, it is easy for them to mislead people into believing in their false, idealistic reality.

Narcissists are also very good actors and are master manipulators. Deceiving people is a major part of the game that they play. In order for a Narcissist to be comfortable in their environment it is important that they gain the trust of those around them. So, they create the illusion of being kind, considerate, caring, professional, trustworthy and whatever else is needed. If they are able to get people to trust them that is the first step before unleashing their true evil intent.

Just like the demon within the Narcissist deceives and manipulates their host (the narcissist), the Narcissist, also deceives and manipulates those around them. The demonic entity at first deceives the Narcissist into thinking that nothing is wrong with them but the issue is everyone else and that every thought that enters their mind is their own and then the trouble begins. The Narcissist accepts blame for nothing and projects all their negative traits unto other people. They are then driven by thoughts of paranoia and fear that keeps them defensive and convinced that everyone is against them.

The illusion of madness that the demon has created for the Narcissist, stops the Narcissist from looking inward to realise that the problem is within. And the illusion of perfection that the Narcissist creates for themselves stops people from seeing the true evil that the Narcissist is capable of.

It’s all a game of illusions, smoke and mirrors, slights of the hand, misleading expressions but above all a demonic influence that hides in the shadows of the mind of the Narcissist.

The Depraved Narcissist

Narcissists have no moral values! Inspite of the squeaky, clean image they present or how innocent they behave, do not be fooled. You cannot put anything past a Narcissist. So, even though they may tick all the boxes of a good and loyal citizen you can be sure they have some hidden dark obsession or down right perversion that they hide.

Narcissists hate everyone and their aim is to defile as many people as possible, especially those closest them.

Narcissists are prone to be sexually immoral; avid cheaters and adulterers, as they are only loyal to themselves and their own wants and desires.

The dark entity that the Narcissist hosts wants to destroy them as much as everyone else. As a result Narcissists are likely to be addicts; addicted to something that either destroys their body or their mind. Being involved with a Narcissist changes us. If we are not careful they can seduce or persuade us into doing things that we had vowed never to do. This is why you have to be careful what you tell a Narcissist, otherwise they will try and find a way to make you eat your words, which will fill them with immense gratification.

The Narcissist enjoys persuading others to do things against their will. They feel powerful knowing that they can get someone to do something they would not usually do. Giving your time and life to a Narcissist is one of the worst mistakes anyone can make because Narcissists do not value anyone, they just want to destroy as many people as they can. It is usually a slow mental destruction, which goes on to break us down physically and spiritually.

Narcissists should be avoided like a plague, wherever possible. Their fake personalities and endless lies are not worth entertaining. The Narcissist only aim is to destroy others. They want to break us mentally, physically and spiritually. Narcissists do not know what love is they only know how to control.

Narcissists are dirty, depraved and dark. They seek out innocent victims and lure them into a trap where they can isolate, control and abuse them. They seek to destroy and make us doubt our mental capabilities by making us feel as though we are the crazy ones and the cause of all their problems. It takes a sick, twisted and perverted mind to do this and think nothing of it.

No one is safe from a Narcissist because they will exploit anyone in their path and use and abuse them whichever way they can. The holier than thou, pretentious character that some of them play up to, is a far cry from who or what they really are.

Breaking The Narcissist’s Trauma Bond

Too many people are struggling with moving on from a Narcissist. They are literally bonded and can’t seem to break free. Some think it’s because of the great sex, or that the person was a ‘proper bombshell’. What really keeps them longing for the Narcissist?

First of all:

What does it mean, to bond with someone? According to the Collins Dictionary it is:

A strong feeling of friendship, love, or shared beliefs and experiences that unites them.

So we see, that a bond is usually something positive but when it’s a Trauma bond it’s basically being bonded with an abuser, where you feel connected to this person even though they hurt and abuse you. There is a perpetual cycle of abuse but something is preventing you from letting go of this person or moving on.

Why does the Trauma Bond happen with a Narcissist?

It all begins with the positive bonding…

The bonding with a narcissist happens during the love-bombing phase when they present you with an idealistic, almost perfect love life. You seem to share with the Narcissist similar traits and beliefs and it just seems perfect. It is an experience that is too good to be true and it is. It is in that time span, when the Narcissist gets you to fall in love with a person that doesn’t really exist. But, your idea of who the Narcissist is, is formed during this time. You become bonded with a fantasy character but you don’t know it. The bond is solidified when you have sexual relations with this Narcissist. Sex is a consumation not just of two physical bodies but of two spirits. You become one with the narcissist and a bit of their spiritual essence is spilt into you.

Time passes, the relationship changes. There is abuse, be it psychological, verbal or physical. There is also a toxic cycle of highs and lows, where there are days when the narcissist acts like they did during the love-bombing phase. But the darker times come, that quickly overshadow the good-times and the cycle continues.

This is where the problem lies:

The victim believes the person they fell in love with is real and once they keep believing that they vainly hope for change. They long for the good old days. They long for the person who swept them off their feet. Not wanting to let go, in fear that they would never experience the love like what they did with anyone else. Afterall, the narcissist made them feel like they were soulmates, that there bond was an eternal one.

Even if they are able to break away from the relationship and the Narcissist, unless they are able to come to terms with what really happend, it will be difficult to move on. Because part of them is still connected to the Narcissist. So, although they maybe physically removed from the situation, spiritually, there is still a connection that needs to be broken.

The Fight begins in the Mind.

Change begins in the mind. If you can get your mind right then your spirit will align itself.

There has to be some reflection and acceptance. Recognising that abuse is not love. Recognising that you were fooled into loving someone who doesn’t love you. Accepting that the Narcissist is a manipulator, a deceiver, an abuser and that the person they pretended to be, was just the bait to catch you. Also, realising that if it wasn’t you, it would have been someone else. These are thoughts that need to be straigtened out in your mind and then these thoughts will feed your spirit. Only then can you truly cleanse your mind, body and spirit and break the bond. Your spirit will then reject that bit of the Narcissist that contaminated your soul, and then you will be free.

No longer walking about in a trance with your eyes wide shut, but fully aware of the evil that you were once entangled with.

Breaking the Narcissist’s Trauma Bond is Possible!

IF YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT THINGS, THE THINGS YOU LOOK AT CHANGE!

Albert Einstein

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DON’T LOSE YOURSELF TRYING TO KEEP CERTAIN PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE!

Clarice

WHEN THE NARCISSIST GOES SILENT

Silence is usually deemed as peaceful, welcoming and pleasant but when a Narcissist goes silent it is none of these things. A narcissist’s silence is never a good thing because the reasons for which they they go silent are usually ill natured.

If a Narcissist is quiet around you, these are the possible reasons:

  1. They see you as a threat – You may have a strong, confident personality that makes the Narcissist uncomfortable.
  2. Narcissists are overthinkers and also have an addictive personality – If there is something that is stressing them or there is an upcoming event where they will play a major part, they will obsess about it and go over it again and again in their minds, and play out all the possible outcomes. They analyse conversations and interactions they’ve had through out the day and end up seeing things that were not there and basically creating issues where they weren’t any before.
  3. They have a secret supply – When in a relationship with a narcissist, if they stop talking to you it’s because they have someone else to talk to. They have a secret supply who they are more concerned with impressing than you. It’s difficult for a narcissist to maintain more than one main supply effectively. They will be loving on one while hating the other. Or being nice to one while abusing the other. So, if the narcissist is love-bombing someone else expect silence and their abscence.
  4. Plotting to destroy or discard someone – When it comes to taking people out the Narcissist is very focused and strategic as to how they would like this to happen, so when they are plotting someone’s destruction expect silence.
  5. They are punishing you – Narcissists use the silent treatment as a tool to punish people. If you’ve offended them in any way this is usually their first go to means of retaliation.

Also, a Narcissist’s silence is usually accompanied with a very negative energy that can sometimes be seen and felt. When a narcissist is silent, they become lost in their minds usually dwelling on negative events and emotions. The silent treatment for the narcissist is like a recharging of strength for the darkness within.

It would benefit the Narcissist and the people around them if they never carried out the silent treatment, as nothing good usually comes out of it. They surely are not reflecting on their behaviours and how to change or make someone happy. The Narcissist’s mind is not occupied with such positive thoughts.

All I’m trying to say is that Silence Is Never Golden with the Narcissist involved. Expect only evil and twisted intentions that will lead to someone’s hurt.

Should You Expose A Narcissist

Narcissists can be tricky, deceptive and dangerous, but you should not be afraid of them. Believe it or not narcissists are more afraid of being exposed than anything else. They don’t want people to know that behind that well polished, confident image is an evil, slimy, insecure pervert that is filled with shame, hate, envy and disgust.

Narcissists envy people who are genuine, happy and empathetic because these are things they are not. The narcissist wants you to believe the lie that they present to you. They want to charm you and fool you so that you don’t see them for what they really are.

The narcissist, like the entity who controls them, is very deceptive because it wants to remain hidden. Exposing a narcissist also exposes the demon at work in their life. That is why if you call out a narcissist and let them know that they are evil, demonic or possessed chances are they will want to avoid you. The narcissist wants you to be afraid of them, they want you to feel intimidated by them. You exposing them and calling them out for what they are is a clear sign that you are not afraid of them and this will make them want to stay away from you.

Narcissists feed off of your negative emotions especially FEAR!

I do not agree with some of the advice out there that encourages people to not expose a narcissist or to run away from a narcissist. That is teaching people to be afraid and I don’t believe anyone should be afraid of a narcissist. I am persuaded that the people who give this advice are narcissists themselves who do not want to be exposed.

I believe, if you are already in an entanglement with a narcissist, that evidence of their evil deeds should be recorded and made available for all in their circle to see. Remaining silent about narcissistic abuse profits only the narcissist. They need to be exposed not just on a general level like what I do but on a personal level. Expose then go No Contact!

Of course, some wisdom needs to be applied as to how you go about doing it. One of them being that you are out of their reach, because an immediate lash out is expected, but Exposing the Narcissist is needed.

We Shouldn’t Be Afraid, We Shouldn’t Be Silent.

For any other narcissist who you may have to work with or interact with on a social level for whatever reason, it’s best to just avoid them. Getting hard evidence on these types of narcissists can be difficult because it usually takes being in a relationship and in their personal space to do this, and it is not worth it.

In the video below I share some tips as to how to stay ahead of the narcissists in your life.

Does The Narcissist Know They Are A Narcissist

The awareness of Narcissism is spreading like wild fire. In addition, narcissists are educating themselves about Narcissism; but not to change themselves. They are learning about it to then accuse other people of being narcissists.

Narcissists are educating themselves about Narcissism, to then, beat others to punch in order to deflect and shift blame. They do it to manipulate and cause confusion. So does the narcissist know they are a narcissist? Probably YES!

What I’ve observed with the narcissists I know, is that they take some pride in being a narcissist. They see themsleves as smarter and more resourceful. They believe they set the standard for others to work towards. But, they just don’t want the negative parts of being a narcissist associated with them. So, many will pretend not to be due to the negative connotations attached to being a narcissist.

Narcissists love to project their negative tendencies, thoughts and emotions onto others. They are very deluded and simply insane, to the point where they would manipulate someone into believing that they are the narcissist and not them. Instead of working on themselves and taking ownership for their actions, they find it easier to just blame someone else.

How pathetic is that!

It takes a truly selfish, deluded, wicked and unempathetic person to do something like this. But that is what we can expect from narcissists.

The odd narcissist who is not familiar with the term ‘narcissist’ or that they are one, still behaves in the same manner. Even when there is no term or label to describe the abuse they put others through when confronted the narcissist will still try to absolve themselves from all blame. They will take everything you accuse them of and throw it back at you trying to make something stick.

The worst thing about narcissists knowing what they are, is that they can better pretend not to be one. We have narcissists with YouTube channels pretending to be victims of narcissistic abuse. We have the ‘Educated Narcissists’ with their degrees acting as professionals in this subject area, pretending to care about helping others.

Narcissists care about no one but themselves and what these ‘Pretenders’ are getting is a truck full of narcissistic supply from true victims of Narcissistic Abuse. Narcissists do not miss an opportunity and many have realised that pretending to be the victim or a survivor of Narcissistic Abuse is more beneficial for their pockets and their egos.

If a narcissist calls you a narcissist, don’t even argue with them just tell them they are too deluded to know the difference and walk away.

Should you tell the narcissist that they are a narcissist?

It depends on who that narcissist is. If it’s your boss, co-worker, fellow church member or school mate; NO! There is no point; you will just be bringing unnecessary negative attacks your way.

The only time I think it is necessary would be, for the closer, personal relationships. For example: If you discover you are in a relationship with someone who is and you’ve decided to walk way, only then should you let them know that you know. Leave a letter, send a text then cut all contact.

But you don`t tell them to start an arguement. Also, do not tell them hoping that they will listen right a way and agree with you. No, they will not! Be prepared to cut all ties and go no contact because the narcissist will not allow it to slide.

Conclusion

Many narcissists already know that they are narcissists and all narcissists know that something is wrong with them but they will not admit it. So, even if they don’t know yet they are a narcissist, they know that there is a dark, empty void that they can’t seem to fill.

Narcissists work hard to convince the people around them that they are perfect and all is well in their world, when it’s not. Narcissists comfort themselves with LIES but they will not be able to run or hide from the truth forever,

Narcissists are the Great Pretenders! To the outiside world they pretend to be Everything They Are Not!

IS EVERYONE NARCISSISTIC

DOES EVERYONE HAVE SOME NARCISSISM?

There has been a lot of misinformation, going around to counteract the spreading awareness of Narcissism, that is on the rise in our society.

I keep hearing the following statements:

‘Everyone have some narcissism’ or their is ‘healthy narcissism’.

Let’s first look at a few definitions of narcissism:

1 – Excessive self-involvement, vanity, egocentricism and lack of regard to others.

2 – Pleasure derived from contemplation or admiration of one’s own body or self.

3 – Total self-absorption, a need for gratification without regard or concern for others.

Narcissists are the ones with Narcissism but it is being pushed on the masses. Yes, it is true that many people are more self-absorbed today, thanks to social media and the media in general, but not everyone (myself included). We live in a time where people are encouraged to be narcissistic and it’s sometimes hard to differentiate between somone who is just a little narcissistic to being a full blown narcissist. I believe all this is intentional. The lines have been blurred to make it easier for people to accept this new mantra that everyone is a narcissist or everyone has a bit of narcissism in them.

Educated narcissists are the ones pushing this misinformation and the masses are just lapping it up. It doesn’t matter how many degrees these narcissists have, we need to remember that they are still narcissists. They are still delusional, pathological liars who are trying to sway the unsuspecting to their dark side.

From the definitions of Narcissism given above; where is there room for narcissism to be healthy? The root of Narcissism is evil and sick why try and put a positive spin on it and say there is Healthy Narcissism.

It’s one thing to care about your appearance and another to be constantly obsessed with it. A decent person would want to be clean and presentable when they are going out; so how can someone turn around and tell them they are being narcissistic. The Narcissism comes when their appearance becomes an obsession: where they are constantly checking themselves in the mirror (taking selfies) or their general commitment to looking good or presenting a certain image becomes excessive.

The problem in today’s society is that too many people are filled with vanity. Being vain (which is a narcissistic trait), is the issue. According to the Cambridge dictionary ‘Vain’ is being too interested in your appearance or achievements. Having too much vanity can lead to other problems such as selfishness, materialism and not having deep and meaningful relationships. Money, looks, material possessions and who you know are very shallow things to base your life around but to a vain person they are everything.

MY RESULTS TO A ‘HOW VAIN ARE YOU’ QUIZ

Someone who has a few narcissistic traits, can go on to become a full blown narcissist with narcissism. Bu,t as I’ve demonstrated many people are not actually narcissists they are just vain. But the intention of the powers that be is that they do become full blown narcissists. They hope that the Spirit of Narcissism will take over the population.

Narcissism is all about oneself, with no regard to others. Narcissism is a lack of empathy. Many people who have picked up a few narcissistic traits still have empathy and still care deeply for others.

Narcissism should be reserved for Narcissists and we should not be too quick to take upon ourselves this attribute.

Now, we are left with the task of weeding the non-narcissists out of the bunch. A clear differentiation is needed to separate the narcissistic (having a few narcissistic traits) from the narcissists. What a lot of people need to work on, so as to not appear narcissistic is; Stop being so VAIN!

To conclude, there are many people who exhibit some narcissistic traits but they are not narcissists. Narcissism is a quality of narcissists and I believe that the Cluster b sect, sociopaths and psychopaths are all narcissists. They all have narcissism as their foundation.

There is no such thing as Healthy Narcissism. Narcissism is for Narcissists not ME!

The Benefits of Being a Narcissist

Are there benefits to being a narcissist? What good does it serve the narcissist to be the way they are?

I have talked a lot about the troubles or woes that a narcissist endures but there is something that keeps the narcissist trapped and in denial to what is really happening in them and to them.

Have you heard of people selling their souls or making deals with the devil? Well, with the narcissist it is very similar to that.

Many narcissists are very successful, they tend to be the ones who are promoted for positions and power. They are the politicians, motivational and public speakers, pastors, C.E.Os, doctors, lawyers, managers, teachers, trainers. But they can also be successful in blue collar jobs as well but the point is, that the narcissist tends to live a life that is worth envying (at least from the outside).

This happens because narcissists are a host to a very dark entity, and for being a host the narcissist is given, what we call, the Gift of Gab, which is: the ability to speak easily and confidently in a way that makes people want to listen to you and believe you.

With this gift and their unhealthy desire to compete and beat everyone around them, the narcissist is able to charm and persuade their way through life getting what they want. This ability makes up for the lack of empathy as the narcissist is able to convince and influence with only their words. Every interview and conversation is a breeze and the narcissist realises very early on this ‘power’ that they now have which draws people and success into their lives.

Many narcissists know that they have this gift and they use it to benefit themselves while destroying the lives of people around them. Narcissists love to gossip, lie and gaslight. They sow seeds of discord to cause arguements and division. They use their tongue to wreak havoc in people’s lives through smear campaigns. They persuade their exes to take them back despite any previous hurt they had caused. They seduce and flirt with whoever they fancy. They break people with their words. Their Gift of Gab is used only to benefit them.

Their gift, to speak the right words, at the right time has something else more sinister at work. When a narcissist is conversing with the intent to persuade or achieve something, it’s almost like they are putting the recipient under a spell. Words are very powerful in their own right but the narcissist has an extra demonic force at work that leaves the hearer almost captivated or entranced. As a result they are open to believing what the narcisisst is saying or open to grant the request of the narcissist.

This is a topic I have covered in a YouTube Video just released today. It is called The Dangers of Conversing With A Narcissist.

Narcissists are given a gift in exchange for their co-operation with the dark side and that is the Gift of Gab. But because of the success a narcissist sees in their life, they tend to attribute it to God or a higher power, if they are religious (and many tend to be). And therefore think that God must be pleased with them because of all the blessings that they are receiving or for how favoured they are. This is the ultimate deception with the narcissist. The source of their success comes from a much darker place but this denial keeps them trapped and their success makes them unwilling to change anything about their lives.

Many who have been hurt by a narcissist have questioned; When is the narcissist going to be punished? When will they get their Karma? They ask this, because as far as they are concerned, the narcissist carries on to be successful and happy. What they don’t understand is, that appearance of success and happiness is and will always be the narcissist’s downfall because their soul is lost. In exchange for worldly success they are being eaten alive and they don’t even know it. They are blinded! But, when the scales are removed from their eyes and all the people who at one time genuinely cared for them can no longer be found. Then, the darkness will reveal itself and claim what is rightfully theirs.

Narcissists are deluded into thinking that their actions will go unpunished! They are foolish to think that they can destroy so many lives and not suffer any loss.

So, although the narcissist has a temporal reward and seem to be living it up and living it well; is it worth it to gain the whole world and lose your soul? I think not!

The moral of this post is not to envy or be jealous of people who are successful because you do not know the price that they have paid to get what they have. Also, don’t believe that because someone appears to have a good life mean they actually do.

NOT EVERYTHING THAT GLITTERS IS GOLD.

EMPATHS BEWARE: The Narcissist is the Predator and You are the Prey!

Let me make it clear; when I say ‘Empath’, I’m simply referring to anyone who has empathy. I know there is a whole Empath movement out there where there are people who are hypersensitive to whatever is around them and can literally feel other peoples´ emotions. I also know that there are different levels of Empaths but, for the purpose of this article, I am simply referring to anyone who has empathy.

Empathy is a big deal because we know that there are people out there who do not have any empathy whatsoever and they are a danger to society. Narcissists (including others on the Cluster B personality disorder scale), psychopaths and sociopaths are all guilty of lacking empathy. Although these people are split up into different categories, I believe their foundation is in narcissism and they are all narcissistic.

Narcissists target empaths! Our empathy is what makes us a magnet for narcissists. The narcissist knows they cannot feel what we feel or understand the different levels of compassion that we show to one another. They can mimic it for their own benefit but it is never genuine. They use their fake empathy to manipulate and control others. Narcissists see empathy as a weakness and therefore they perceive empaths as easy targets.

The lack of empathy that narcissists have is a big contributor to who they are (evil, selfish, deluded, pathological liars etc). When someone has been taken over by a dark entity, their ability to empathize diminishes as the evil force that they are now hosting cannot operate effectively if empathy is present. I would compare it to a light switch being turned off; you turn off the light and you´re left in darkness unable to see or discern what is wrong or right. Empathy is that light switch that goes off when a darker force has taken control.

The narcissist now earnestly seeks to connect with those who have empathy, not only to control and manipulate them but also in an attempt to feel and experience love but it never happens, as no matter how much love and compassion you show to a narcissist, it is never enough. Their ego eats it all up but the true essence of the person being possessed by the dark entity never gets any of that as their true self is hidden away.

The narcissist despises our empathy on one hand but on the other hand they crave it. It makes them feel alive, wanted and important. They’ve realised that empathy gives us access to something they don’t have, and it is Hope.

Empathy breeds hope and hope is what a narcissist really needs but because of their lack of empathy, they are instead filled with and driven by fear. Once a narcissist remains a narcissist there is no hope for them and if there is no hope, there is no joy in life.

So, narcissists will continue to hunt for empaths, as they think they are an easy target but also in a desperate attempt to attain something that they can´t ever truly have. Our empathy is our strength. We are stronger than narcissists and it´s because we have Hope!

Hope Central

How To Make A Narcissist Leave You Alone

This question, in my mind, has a very simple answer and if you already know, some of the things a narcissist is afraid of, you may already know the answer.

My job, is to EXPOSE NARCISSISTS and getting exposure is one of the narcissist’s biggest fears. This is why the narcissist has worked hard to maintain a certain image. It is basically to hide the darkness and evil inside their miserable hearts.

The dark entity within the narcissist has also worked pretty hard, to not be detected by even the narcissist (host). So, calling the narcissist out and at the same time making the entity aware that you know it’s there is the best way to get a narcissist to leave you alone.

You can simply tell the narcissist either that they they are evil, demon possessed, that they have a black negative energy atttached to them or that their heart is black. Any of these phrases and more will send off alarm bells in the mind of the narcissist and an immense fear will come over them. This is not just the narcissist’s response alone, but the response of the demonic entity within them.

The last time I did this, it was in a text message. She read it but did not respond. She started a smear campaign against me but she has never made any attempt to contact me since and this was 3 years ago.

The entity realises that you are on to them and that is enough to make them fearful and also make the host afraid of you. If you know that they are there, they will anticipate your next move, will be to try and get rid of them and they don’t want that.

So, the answer is simple, it may take a bit of courage but if you are able to, it is the best way to get a narcissist to leave you alone. Call them out for exactly what they are; demon-filled, evil, toxic bastards. This will evoke a deep sense of shame that they will try to shun away from and deny but they will never be comfortable around you ever again, which means they will actively avoid you. They may smear you, tell people you are crazy, in order to justify avoiding you but they themselves will not be able to look you in the eye ever again.

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