The Depraved Narcissist

Narcissists have no moral values! Inspite of the squeaky, clean image they present or how innocent they behave, do not be fooled. You cannot put anything past a Narcissist. So, even though they may tick all the boxes of a good and loyal citizen you can be sure they have some hidden dark obsession or down right perversion that they hide.

Narcissists hate everyone and their aim is to defile as many people as possible, especially those closest them.

Narcissists are prone to be sexually immoral; avid cheaters and adulterers, as they are only loyal to themselves and their own wants and desires.

The dark entity that the Narcissist hosts wants to destroy them as much as everyone else. As a result Narcissists are likely to be addicts; addicted to something that either destroys their body or their mind. Being involved with a Narcissist changes us. If we are not careful they can seduce or persuade us into doing things that we had vowed never to do. This is why you have to be careful what you tell a Narcissist, otherwise they will try and find a way to make you eat your words, which will fill them with immense gratification.

The Narcissist enjoys persuading others to do things against their will. They feel powerful knowing that they can get someone to do something they would not usually do. Giving your time and life to a Narcissist is one of the worst mistakes anyone can make because Narcissists do not value anyone, they just want to destroy as many people as they can. It is usually a slow mental destruction, which goes on to break us down physically and spiritually.

Narcissists should be avoided like a plague, wherever possible. Their fake personalities and endless lies are not worth entertaining. The Narcissist only aim is to destroy others. They want to break us mentally, physically and spiritually. Narcissists do not know what love is they only know how to control.

Narcissists are dirty, depraved and dark. They seek out innocent victims and lure them into a trap where they can isolate, control and abuse them. They seek to destroy and make us doubt our mental capabilities by making us feel as though we are the crazy ones and the cause of all their problems. It takes a sick, twisted and perverted mind to do this and think nothing of it.

No one is safe from a Narcissist because they will exploit anyone in their path and use and abuse them whichever way they can. The holier than thou, pretentious character that some of them play up to, is a far cry from who or what they really are.




There has been a lot of misinformation, going around to counteract the spreading awareness of Narcissism, that is on the rise in our society.

I keep hearing the following statements:

‘Everyone have some narcissism’ or their is ‘healthy narcissism’.

Let’s first look at a few definitions of narcissism:

1 – Excessive self-involvement, vanity, egocentricism and lack of regard to others.

2 – Pleasure derived from contemplation or admiration of one’s own body or self.

3 – Total self-absorption, a need for gratification without regard or concern for others.

Narcissists are the ones with Narcissism but it is being pushed on the masses. Yes, it is true that many people are more self-absorbed today thanks to social media and the media in general but not everyone (myself included). We live in a time where people are encouraged to be narcissistic and it’s sometimes hard to differentiate between somone who is just a little narcissistic to being a full blown narcissist. I believe all this is intentional. The lines have been blurred to make it easier for people to accept this new mantra that everyone is a narcissist or everyone has a bit of narcissism in them.

Educated narcissists are the ones pushing this misinformation and the masses are just lapping it up. It doesn’t matter how many degrees these narcissists have, we need to remember that they are still narcissists. They are still delusional, pathological liars who are trying to sway the unsuspecting to their dark side.

From the definitions of Narcissism given above; where is there room for narcissism to be healthy? The root of Narcissism is evil and sick why try and put a positive spin on it and say there is Healthy Narcissism.

It’s one thing to care about your appearance and another to be constantly obsessed with it. A decent person would want to be clean and presentable when they are going out; so how can someone turn around and tell them they are being narcissistic. The Narcissism comes when their appearance becomes an obsession: where they are constantly checking themselves in the mirror (taking selfies) or their general commitment to looking good or presenting a certain image becomes excessive.

The problem in today’s society is that too many people are filled with vanity. Being vain (which is a narcissistic trait), is the issue. According to the Cambridge dictionary ‘Vain’ is being too interested in your appearance or achievements. Having too much vanity can lead to other problems such as selfishness, materialism and not having deep and meaningful relationships. Money, looks, material possessions and who you know are very shallow things to base your life around but to a vain person they are everything.


Someone who has a few narcissistic traits, can go on to become a full blown narcissist with narcissism but as I’ve demonstrated many people are not actually narcissists they are just vain. But the intention of the powers that be is that they do become full blown narcissists. They hope that the Spirit of Narcissism will take over the population.

Narcissism is all about oneself, with no regard to others. Narcissism is a lack of empathy. Many people who have picked up a few narcissistic traits still have empathy and still care deeply for others.

Narcissism should be reserved for Narcissists and we should not be too quick to take upon ourselves this attribute.

Now, we are left with the task of weeding the non-narcissists out of the bunch. A clear differentiation is needed to separate the narcissistic (having a few narcissistic traits) from the narcissists. What a lot of people need to work on, so as to not appear narcissistic is; Stop being so VAIN!

To conclude, there are many people who exhibit some narcissistic traits but they are not narcissists. Narcissism is a quality of narcissists and I believe that the Cluster b sect, sociopaths and psychopaths are all narcissists. They all have narcissism as their foundation.

There is no such thing as Healthy Narcissism. Narcissism is for Narcissists not ME!


The Benefits of Being a Narcissist

Are there benefits to being a narcissist? What good does it serve the narcissist to be the way they are?

I have talked a lot about the troubles or woes that a narcissist endures but there is something that keeps the narcissist trapped and in denial to what is really happening in them and to them.

Have you heard of people selling their souls or making deals with the devil? Well, with the narcissist it is very similar to that.

Many narcissists are very successful, they tend to be the ones who are promoted for positions and power. They are the politicians, motivational and public speakers, pastors, C.E.Os, doctors, lawyers, managers, teachers, trainers. But they can also be successful in blue collar jobs as well but the point is, that the narcissist tends to live a life that is worth envying (at least from the outside).

This happens because narcissists are a host to a very dark entity, and for being a host the narcissist is given, what we call, the Gift of Gab, which is: the ability to speak easily and confidently in a way that makes people want to listen to you and believe you.

With this gift and their unhealthy desire to compete and beat everyone around them, the narcissist is able to charm and persuade their way through life getting what they want. This ability makes up for the lack of empathy as the narcissist is able to convince and influence with only their words. Every interview and conversation is a breeze and the narcissist realises very early on this ‘power’ that they now have which draws people and success into their lives.

Many narcissists know that they have this gift and they use it to benefit themselves while destroying the lives of people around them. Narcissists love to gossip, lie and gaslight. They sow seeds of discord to cause arguements and division. They use their tongue to wreak havoc in people’s lives through smear campaigns. They persuade their exes to take them back despite any previous hurt they had caused. They seduce and flirt with whoever they fancy. They break people with their words. Their Gift of Gab is used only to benefit them.

Their gift, to speak the right words, at the right time has something else more sinister at work. When a narcissist is conversing with the intent to persuade or achieve something, it’s almost like they are putting the recipient under a spell. Words are very powerful in their own right but the narcissist has an extra demonic force at work that leaves the hearer almost captivated or entranced. As a result they are open to believing what the narcisisst is saying or open to grant the request of the narcissist.

This is a topic I have covered in a YouTube Video just released today. It is called The Dangers of Conversing With A Narcissist.

Narcissists are given a gift in exchange for their co-operation with the dark side and that is the Gift of Gab. But because of the success a narcissist sees in their life, they tend to attribute it to God or a higher power, if they are religious (and many tend to be). And therefore think that God must be pleased with them because of all the blessings that they are receiving or for how favoured they are. This is the ultimate deception with the narcissist. The source of their success comes from a much darker place but this denial keeps them trapped and their success makes them unwilling to change anything about their lives.

Many who have been hurt by a narcissist have questioned; When is the narcissist going to be punished? When will they get their Karma? They ask this, because as far as they are concerned, the narcissist carries on to be successful and happy. What they don’t understand is, that appearance of success and happiness is and will always be the narcissist’s downfall because their soul is lost. In exchange for worldly success they are being eaten alive and they don’t even know it. They are blinded! But, when the scales are removed from their eyes and all the people who at one time genuinely cared for them can no longer be found. Then, the darkness will reveal itself and claim what is rightfully theirs.

Narcissists are deluded into thinking that their actions will go unpunished! They are foolish to think that they can destroy so many lives and not suffer any loss.

So, although the narcissist has a temporal reward and seem to be living it up and living it well; is it worth it to gain the whole world and lose your soul? I think not!

The moral of this post is not to envy or be jealous of people who are successful because you do not know the price that they have paid to get what they have. Also, don’t believe that because someone appears to have a good life mean they actually do.



How Are Narcissists Made?

So now you know who or what a narcissist is, your next question maybe: But how do they get this way? How does someone become a narcissist? Well, narcissists are everywhere. They are in the schools, the churches, the work place and every social organisation there is. We also have many people walking around who do not have the Narcissistic Personality Disorder but have narcissistic traits. Narcissism is becoming an everyday thing that many people have to deal with in different areas of their lives.

I believe that there are 3 different ways in which someone can become a narcissist. It’s either the result of child abuse, inherited or learnt. I believe children can be narcissists as well but doctors refuse to diagnose them with NPD until they are young adults which is unfortunate because by then it’s too late to do much with them. The narcissism is no longer a seed but a full grown tree!

Child Abuse Creates Narcissists

It All Begins In Childhood

Not all children who are abused become narcissists but many do! For those that do, narcissism is something that begins in childhood as a coping mechanism to deal with abuse, neglect or abandonment. The child creates an alter ego that they think is better and separate from who they really are. They tell a lot of lies to push aside the reality of what they are actually going through and cover up the wounded child inside. They don’t just lie to others, they lie to themselves. They try to bury the pain and hurt deep inside. As the child grows these behaviours are perfected and embedded into their personality. Who they really are or were is replaced by this alter ego which has become their mask to the world. Children are very susceptible to spiritual attacks as well and the abuse makes them ten times more susceptible. I believe that’s when an entity would enter and start directing their thoughts and that’s why the pattern for these narcissists are always the same. These entities are from the same demonic source.

Narcissism Can Be Inherited

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My second theory is that some people are born narcissists. This is due to the spiritual element of narcissism that I believe in. Narcissism is like a generational curse that can be passed down from one generation to the next. So even if that child had to be put up for adoption to parents who are not narcissists if any of their biological parents were narcissists that child can still end up being a fully blown narcissist.

Generational curses sometimes skip a generation or does not affect every descendent. So if a narcissist has 3 children at least one is guaranteed to be a narcissist. The demonic entities never die and they are always looking for a host and for them it’s easier to stay within a family where they know they have already had success. So, for some people out there I believe they are simply born narcissists.

Narcissism Can Be Learnt

My final theory is that narcissism can be learnt. It’s a learned behaviour for some narcissists. This happens especially with children who have a parent who is a Covert Narcissist. Many of these children did not suffer any physical or verbal abuse but usually that of the insidious nature. Covert Narcissistic mothers tend to teach their children narcissism without even realising and that doesn’t include the simple fact that children look up to their parents, as their first examples as to how they should conduct themselves. So Yes, just like that they pick up their narcissistic behaviours and mannerisms. They learn that outside the home they have to wear a mask. The learn to gas-light, manipulate and lie profusely. They learn to shift blame and never take accountability for when things go wrong. They learn to hold grudges and never forgive. They learn to fake emotions. They become what that narcissistic parent wants them to be. What that child doesn’t know is that they are picking up more than toxic behaviours, they are opening up themselves to a demonic entity who thrives in a narcissistic mind.

Some people are co-dependants meaning they depend heavily on others to validate them. They look to others to decide how they should be as a person. Children who are this way will do whatever is necessary to please that parent; but what if that parent is a narcissist? These types of children are likely to become the golden child who the narcissistic parent dotes about as they are so eager to please them. As a result, the baton of narcissism is usually past to this co-dependent golden child.

This can happen not only to children but a co-dependent adult who is in a relationship with a narcissist. They take on the toxic behaviours of their spouse/partner a lot easier than someone who is not a co-dependent. They can go from just developing a few narcissistic traits to becoming full blown narcissists depending on how long they stay in a relationship with a narcissist. I call these types of narcissists Co-dependent narcissists. They can become narcissists as children or as adults it all comes down to exposure.

Why Are Narcissists Usually Low In Energy

After living with Narcissists I have realised the extreme effort it takes for the them to maintain their false image and personas. I’ve seen the effort it takes to just go to a corner shop and back. The exhaustion from putting on a positive font etc, only to be left incapable of carrying out at-home chores or tasks.

I personally, thought that they were just lazy as they seem to only find energy for the things they want to do or be seen doing.

There is more! It is not that simple! Narcissists are dark, bitter, negative and void of any Light. As a result they are constantly on a lower vibration or energy frequency than most people as they are constantly wallowing in negative emotions.

Also, the demonic, energy zapping entity that is inside of them keeps them in a state of never-ending darkness and paranoia. These entities are parasitic by nature and feed off the negative energies that they influence the Narcissist to generate and the hurt they inflict on others

Being in this low vibrational state sucks the Narcissist of their physical energies that they need to perform everyday tasks. Basically, it is exhausting being a Narcissist as their minds are constantly in turmoil trying to out-think and manipulate others but also they are paranoid and fearful. Furthermore, hosting a low level parasitic entity contributes heavily to them having low physical energies. Everyhting has a knock on effect. The low vibration entity keeps the Narcissist in a negative state of mind, which lowers the Narcissist’s vibration, which then affects the Narcissist’s energy levels.

So, this explains why Narcissists can muster enough energy to pursue their closest and dearest interests or hobbies but then they are not able to do more. Narcissists are still selfish, self-absorbed creatures but also, the fact is, that they just don’t have it to give. They are easily mentally and pysically exhausted.

The amount of energy Narcissists put into destroying people only strengthens the dark force within them. The Narcissist themselves are left feeling broken and battered after each encounter. So, even though they experience a temporal high and burst of energy during such altercations, the aftermath is a much different story.

But to conclude Narcissists have low vibrations, due to the negative entity and negative emotions that they harbour, which leads to them having low physical energy.

Existing at this Low Level of Vibration can lead to physical and mental ailments. As I always say, the Narcissist’s Karma is In-Built. They are their own worst enemy!

How Narcissists View Relationships

Having relationships are a vital part of the human experience. Relationships can be diverse and complicated, but one thing that is certain is that relationships with Narcissists are toxic and dangerous.

Narcissists love having relationships because they need people. They need people to shower them with love and affection. But, they also need people to manipulate, hurt and abuse. So, forming and having relationships is essential to Narcissists.

Their fake image will be of no value, if there was no one around to compliment or praise them for it. Narcissists need that Narcissistic Supply to fuel their ego and keep their false reality alive. While healthy people see relationships as an opportunity to get to know others and create positive bonds; Narcissists view relationships very differently.

Narcissists form relationship for selfish reasons. It is always about what they can get from this person or what this other person can do for them. Narcissists are not interested in having honest relationships as all their relationships are built on lies. They deceive about who they are and what they are about. They never reveal their true intentions as others will just run the other way.

Narcissists present an image or personality that people can fall in love with, trust and believe in. This blinds us from seeing the Narcissist for who they truly are; so that when they lie and manipulate us, we don’t see it for what it is. The deception is strong and the deception is real but this is what they need to get access to our lives, our empathy and our emotions.

Above all, the real reason Narcissists need people in their lives is so that they can manipulate, hurt and abuse them. Making people suffer makes the Narcissist happy. Every tear you cry because of them, every frown you make, makes them feel better inside. When the Narcissist hurts someone that feeds the darkness within them. That happiness they feel is not their own but that of the entity, who relishes every fight and every arguement that the Narcissist gets involved in. The sight of misery, pain and conflict is what it delights in.

We need to remember that the Narcissist is only a host for an even more sinister being; who seeks to steal, kill and destroy everything in its path. The Narcissist is only fulfilling the darkest desires of this entity. There is no room for empathy, no room for sympathy only a desire to inflict pain and without relationships many Narcissists will not have the opportunity to do this.

Getting into relationships with Narcissists is a trap. Nothing is ever as it seems and for many, it is usually a little too late when they finally realise what they have gotten themselves into.

Knowing how to spot Narcissists and keep them at a distance is the only way to avoid being entangled. Familiarity breeds contempt. Never allow a Narcissist to get too close as if you give them a foot they will go a mile. They have no respect for boundaries and have a huge sense of entitlement.

Relationships are necessary for Narcissists, as relationships allow them to be able to carry out their darkest desires; a lot of times in secret. Many abuse their families in secret, while publicly pretending to be the perfect parent and partner.

Blood relations are no different when dealing with Narcissists. So, whether it is a Narcissistic parent, sibling, aunt or cousin; Beware! All Narcissists are the same and their intention is to ruin to you. Protect your peace and sanity by avoiding these types of people at all cost.

All relationships with Narcissists should be avoided and if you were born into a Narcissistic family they need to be avoided as well.

Relationships take time, empathy, honest communication, forgiveness, acceptance and just hands on work. Narcissists are not worth the investment as they cannot give those things in return. They are also not interested in having healthy, loving relationships. Narcissists just want to take, take and take. Relationships for Narcissists are one-sided; where they are the winners and everyone else loses.

The Narcissistic Psychopath

Narcissists and Psychopaths have a lot in common and that is why I say; “All Psychopaths are Narcissists but not all Narcissists are Psychopaths.”

What about Sociopaths? Sociopaths are the result of early childhood abuse. Their anti-social behaviours are prevalent throughout their life and is clear for all to see. Sociopaths experience some guilt and empathy and are vulnerable to stress, anxiety and shame. They are also more reckless but can form attachments with one or more persons. Sociopaths expose themselves in their irresponsible, brazen, aggressive behaviours. They lie and deceive but are not as manipulative as Narcissists and Psychopaths.

Whereas, Narcissists and Psychopaths are usually polite, charming and respected people in their communities. They are more careful to hide their lack of empathy and true dark intentions. Unlike Sociopaths they do not lash out and show their aggressive nature to any and everyone. Narcissists and Psychopaths operate in the shadows. They wear a mask that helps them to fit into society quite well. They manipulate people and events to get the desired outcomes that they want

The main difference between a Narcissist and a Psychopath is that the Narcissist is driven by fear and harbour a lot of negative emotions like envy, hate and disgust whereas the Psychopath experiences very little, if any, sort of emotions at all. Psychopaths have no fear and they do not hate themselves or others. They are just indifferent to everything and everyone. And although they can get angry, frustrated, jolly etc. it is very shortlived.

A Psychopath is a Narcissist who has nothing to lose. Narcissists care about their image and reputation. They live in fear of being exposed and brought to shame whereas the Psychopath isn’t phased by any of that.

The Narcissistic Psychopath is therefore the most dangerous of all. But, they do find it convenient to stay under the radar, so will present as a normal person in many situations. They can be directors of companies, they can be pastors, world leaders and even doctors, therapists and counsellors. Psychopaths, like many Narcissists, have a thirst for knowledge so are likely to always be looking to develop themselves in some area of their life. But Psychopaths are not dependent on other people for supply or companionship and could happily be lone rangers.

The Narcissistic Psychopath has no empathy, no fear, no morals; but at the same time can be so charming, presentable and intelligent. But you can be sure that they have their secret ways to feed their dark desires; so are sure to have a closet full of skeletons.

With regards to the spiritual aspect; the dark entity that influences and manipulates the Narcissists thoughts and emotions is much more in control in Psychopaths. The entity and the Psychopath are one in the same. These dark spiritual beings are able to live to their fullest through Psychopaths who are numb to human emotions.

Narcissists can get worse. The dark forces already at work can get an even stronger hold. Narcissists can become Psychopaths; and that is why I believe that as evil as Narcissists are there are situations that can make them even worse; such as being abandoned or ghosted.

There are people who believe that Narcissists are Psychopaths and in a way that is true as Pyschopaths are Narcissists but I hope I have made it clear that there is a difference and that all Narcissists are not Psychopaths.

Flying Monkeys And The Smear Campaign

The Smear Campaign has been on my mind a lot lately, because I recently found out from my mother, that my Narcissistic brother has now joined forces with the Narcissist who started a Smear Campaign against me over three years ago. In the last conversation he had with her, he expressed his hatred towards me and that he was happy to go against me, as he never liked a bone in my body. This, of course, was difficult for my mother to hear and she hanged up the phone on him. I on the other hand, was not surprised, as I know that the hate that the Narcissist has towards someone never really goes away. They would smile with you and act nice but their heart is against you and they are just secretly waiting to destroy you.

Narcissists will slander anyone; that is just normal everyday gossip for them. But a Smear Campaign takes a bit more work because the Narcissist doesn’t just want to gossip about you they want to turn people against you. They want you to be labeled as the perpetrator and they the victim. They also recruit others to aid in their campaign and these recruits have been waiting in the wings for a while as the Narcissist’s Smear Campaign always begins on the down low, months even years advance.

Do you realise how evil and conniving someone has to be to do this; considering that what the Narcissist spreads are just a bunch of lies? But, a Narcissistic Injury is what is usually the start of the Narcisssit’s Smear Campaign and it could be for the smallest, most insignificant offence. But this is futher proof that Narcissists are just insecure, petty and full of hate to begin with.

The evil that resides in the Narcissist pushes them to seek revenge, relentlessly and in their minds the original offence is greater than what it initially was. Narcissists overthink the smallest matters and the demonic entity feeds their minds with lies and exaggerated memories, to justify their need for revenge.

Narcissists are demonically possessed and negative emotions are what these evil entities feed off of. Keeping the Narcissist filled with hate, anger, disgust and envy is the entity’s aim, as this is what helps it to grow and strengthen. Also, the Smear Campaign provides perfect fuel for this demonic entity and that is why Narcissists get progressively worse during the Smear Campaign, as you are not just dealinig with the host but the darkness that is driving them. If the victim goes No Contact, this can drive the Narcissist bonkers as they want to see that the Smear Campaign is affecting you. The Narcissist will become more desperate in their attempts to destroy you and their craziness and hatred will reveal itself.

The Smear Campagin exposes those who are for you and those who are against you. Do not take the opportunity forgranted to eliminate these people from your life as anyone who sides with the Narcissist is now your enemy and cannot be trusted. Smear Campaigns cans be hurtful and destructive but not just for the victims but the Narcissist as well, as Smear Campaigns make the Narcissist worse. They become darker and crazier because the demonic force is able to feed off of the negativity and gain an even stronger hold. The Smear Campaign will not end as the Narcissist never forgives. They are consumed with revenge and their is no going back.

The Dynamics Of A Narcissistic Household

Growing up in a narcissistic household with narcissistic parents can be very damaging for the children involved. If both parents are Narcissists then I can only imagine that, that house will be a house of horrors! Narcissists are dangerous to everyone around them and their children are no exception.

Narcissistic Parents usually want to give the illusion that they have a happy and perfect family life. The children learn from a very young age to wear a mask when they are in public and to always pretend that everything is fine, even when it’s not.

If one parent is a Narcissist then things may not be as bad as it could be but then it depends on whether it’s the mom who is a Narcissist or the dad that is a Narcissist.

Male Narcissists are usually emotionally detached from the children and don’t get involved too much with the affairs of raising the children. They just see them as accessories to make them look like a responsible, mature and loving father. But they do not care to do the work necessary to ensure that their children are emotionally stable and well rounded. Although they maybe physically present they are usually detached mentally and emotionally. They will abuse all in their household psychologically but will hand-pick one or two to abuse pyhsically.

Female Narcissists on the other hand seek to turn their households into a Cult and she is the cult leader. Complete control must be hers and everyone must hearken to her bidding. She decides who should relate well with whom and who should be treated as an outcast. She will turn the children against each other and against the other parent. She will show favoritism to one of her children and mold them to be exactly what she thinks they should be. Whatever happens in the home, stays in the home and no one should ever make mommy look bad. She would remind them of the sacrifices she makes to take care of them and that they owe her, their life. She expects to be praised and complimented, If she is unhappy everyone will be unhappy. She rules her house with an iron fist and her children are her subjects and she will use them and abuse them as she sees fit. The thinking of the Female Narcissist is that she brought them into this world and she can take them out if she wants to.

Narcissists are selfish, evil and depraved. Having children does not improve or change their view of life and people. Everyone is a tool, everyone is prey to the Narcissist. Living and growing up with a Narcissist can leave many people damaged and insecure for life. But there are others who get away and flourish into the beautiful human beings they were meant to be. But the important thing is to get away. Escape the madness and the cruelty of the Narcissistic parent otherwise you will never be happy. Breaking free also includes getting rid of those spiritual and emotional ties that we have, so as not to continue this generational curse of toxicity.

The actions and words of a parent live on within their children and unfortunatley when it comes to Narcissistic parents many times they end up raising Narcissistic chilren. Thankfully, some are born immune to the toxicity and rise above it, while others choose to leave the toxic path paved out for them.

I grew up with a Narcissistic dad which wasn’t too bad but I have also seen the destruction the Female Narcissist can cause. I think it has to do with the expectation of the mother, to be the carer and the nurturer. But also, after carrying the child for months inside of her, a strong bond is created which can easily be turned into a Trauma Bond that then needs to be broken.

Ideally Narcissists should not be parents as they clearly are not cut out for it. But all we can do is keep learning how to deal with the cards we’ve been dealt.

Narcissists Are Illusionists

Narcissists are the great pretenders and massive deceivers. Many are able to convince people that they are fantastic and that they live a fanstastic life but, that is far from the truth. Narcissists are miserable, moody and depressed individuals who hide behind possessions, fake smiles and positions. They are the illusionists and everything that they present to the masses with regards to being happy and successful is only an illusion.

An Illusion is a deceptive appearance or impression and an Illusionist is someone who produces the illusion.

Narcissists do not only have a fake image but they create a false reality around themselves. They also are guilty of future faking; where they convince themself and those around them that there is a better and brighter future ahead with them. Narcissists are very imaginative, and they are very persuasive. So, it is easy for them to mislead people into believing in their false, idealistic reality.

Narcissists are also very good actors and are master manipulators. Deceiving people is a major part of the game that they play. In order for a Narcissist to be comfortable in their environment it is important that they gain the trust of those around them. So, they create the illusion of being kind, considerate, caring, professional, trustworthy and whatever else is needed. If they are able to get people to trust them that is the first step before unleashing their true evil intent.

Just like the demon within the Narcissist deceives and manipulates their host (the narcissist), the Narcissist, also deceives and manipulates those around them. The demonic entity at first deceives the Narcissist into thinking that nothing is wrong with them but the issue is everyone else and that every thought that enters their mind is their own and then the trouble begins. The Narcissist accepts blame for nothing and projects all their negative traits unto other people. They are then driven by thoughts of paranoia and fear that keeps them defensive and convinced that everyone is against them.

The illusion of madness that the demon has created for the Narcissist, stops the Narcissist from looking inward to realise that the problem is within. And the illusion of perfection that the Narcissist creates for themselves stops people from seeing the true evil that the Narcissist is capable of.

It’s all a game of illusions, smoke and mirrors, slights of the hand, misleading expressions but above all a demonic influence that hides in the shadows of the mind of the Narcissist.

Breaking The Narcissist’s Trauma Bond

Too many people are struggling with moving on from a Narcissist. They are literally bonded and can’t seem to break free. Some think it’s because of the great sex, or that the person was a ‘proper bombshell’. What really keeps them longing for the Narcissist?

First of all:

What does it mean, to bond with someone? According to the Collins Dictionary it is:

A strong feeling of friendship, love, or shared beliefs and experiences that unites them.

So we see, that a bond is usually something positive but when it’s a Trauma bond it’s basically being bonded with an abuser, where you feel connected to this person even though they hurt and abuse you. There is a perpetual cycle of abuse but something is preventing you from letting go of this person or moving on.

Why does the Trauma Bond happen with a Narcissist?

It all begins with the positive bonding…

The bonding with a narcissist happens during the love-bombing phase when they present you with an idealistic, almost perfect love life. You seem to share with the Narcissist similar traits and beliefs and it just seems perfect. It is an experience that is too good to be true and it is. It is in that time span, when the Narcissist gets you to fall in love with a person that doesn’t really exist. But, your idea of who the narcissist is, is formed during this time. You become bonded with a fantasy character but you don’t know it. The bond is solidified when you have sexual relations with this Narcissist. Sex is a consumation not just of two physical bodies but of two spirits. You become one with the narcissist and a bit of their spiritual essence is spilt into you.

Time passes, the relationship changes. There is abuse, be it psychological, verbal or physical. There is also a toxic cycle of highs and lows, where there are days when the narcissist acts like they did during the love-bombing phase. But the darker times come, that quickly overshadow the good-times and the cycle continues.

This is where the problem lies:

The victim believes the person they fell in love with is real and once they keep believing that they vainly hope for change. They long for the good old days. They long for the person who swept them off their feet. Not wanting to let go, in fear that they would never experience the love like what they did with anyone else. Afterall, the narcissist made them feel like they were soulmates, that there bond was an eternal one.

Even if they are able to break away from the relationship and the Narcissist, unless they are able to come to terms with what really happend, it will be difficult to move on. Because part of them is still connected to the Narcissist. So, although they maybe physically removed from the situation, spiritually, there is still a connection that needs to be broken.

The Fight begins in the Mind.

Change begins in the mind. If you can get your mind right then your spirit will align itself.

There has to be some reflection and acceptance. Recognising that abuse is not love. Recognising that you were fooled into loving someone who doesn’t love you. Accepting that the Narcissist is a manipulator, a deceiver, an abuser and that the person they pretended to be, was just the bait to catch you. Also, realising that if it wasn’t you, it would have been someone else. These are thoughts that need to be straigtened out in your mind and then these thoughts will feed your spirit. Only then can you truly cleanse your mind, body and spirit and break the bond. Your spirit will then reject that bit of the Narcissist that contaminated your soul, and then you will be free.

No longer walking about in a trance with your eyes wide shut, but fully aware of the evil that you were once entangled with.

Breaking the Narcissist’s Trauma Bond is Possible!


Albert Einstein





Silence is usually deemed as peaceful, welcoming and pleasant but when a Narcissist goes silent it is none of these things. A narcissist’s silence is never a good thing because the reasons for which they they go silent are usually ill natured.

If a Narcissist is quiet around you, these are the possible reasons:

  1. They see you as a threat – You may have a strong, confident personality that makes the Narcissist uncomfortable.
  2. Narcissists are overthinkers and also have an addictive personality – If there is something that is stressing them or there is an upcoming event where they will play a major part, they will obsess about it and go over it again and again in their minds, and play out all the possible outcomes. They analyse conversations and interactions they’ve had through out the day and end up seeing things that were not there and basically creating issues where they weren’t any before.
  3. They have a secret supply – When in a relationship with a narcissist, if they stop talking to you it’s because they have someone else to talk to. They have a secret supply who they are more concerned with impressing than you. It’s difficult for a narcissist to maintain more than one main supply effectively. They will be loving on one while hating the other. Or being nice to one while abusing the other. So, if the narcissist is love-bombing someone else expect silence and their abscence.
  4. Plotting to destroy or discard someone – When it comes to taking people out the Narcissist is very focused and strategic as to how they would like this to happen, so when they are plotting someone’s destruction expect silence.
  5. They are punishing you – Narcissists use the silent treatment as a tool to punish people. If you’ve offended them in any way this is usually their first go to means of retaliation.

Also, a Narcissist’s silence is usually accompanied with a very negative energy that can sometimes be seen and felt. When a narcissist is silent, they become lost in their minds usually dwelling on negative events and emotions. The silent treatment for the narcissist is like a recharging of strength for the darkness within.

It would benefit the Narcissist and the people around them if they never carried out the silent treatment, as nothing good usually comes out of it. They surely are not reflecting on their behaviours and how to change or make someone happy. The Narcissist’s mind is not occupied with such positive thoughts.

All I’m trying to say is that Silence Is Never Golden with the Narcissist involved. Expect only evil and twisted intentions that will lead to someone’s hurt.

Should You Expose A Narcissist

Narcissists can be tricky, deceptive and dangerous, but you should not be afraid of them. Believe it or not narcissists are more afraid of being exposed than anything else. They don’t want people to know that behind that well polished, confident image is an evil, slimy, insecure pervert that is filled with shame, hate, envy and disgust.

Narcissists envy people who are genuine, happy and empathetic because these are things they are not. The narcissist wants you to believe the lie that they present to you. They want to charm you and fool you so that you don’t see them for what they really are.

The narcissist, like the entity who controls them, is very deceptive because it wants to remain hidden. Exposing a narcissist also exposes the demon at work in their life. That is why if you call out a narcissist and let them know that they are evil, demonic or possessed chances are they will want to avoid you. The narcissist wants you to be afraid of them, they want you to feel intimidated by them. You exposing them and calling them out for what they are is a clear sign that you are not afraid of them and this will make them want to stay away from you.

Narcissists feed off of your negative emotions especially FEAR!

I do not agree with some of the advice out there that encourages people to not expose a narcissist or to run away from a narcissist. That is teaching people to be afraid and I don’t believe anyone should be afraid of a narcissist. I am persuaded that the people who give this advice are narcissists themselves who do not want to be exposed.

I believe, if you are already in an entanglement with a narcissist, that evidence of their evil deeds should be recorded and made available for all in their circle to see. Remaining silent about narcissistic abuse profits only the narcissist. They need to be exposed not just on a general level like what I do but on a personal level. Expose then go No Contact!

Of course, some wisdom needs to be applied as to how you go about doing it. One of them being that you are out of their reach, because an immediate lash out is expected, but Exposing the Narcissist is needed.

We Shouldn’t Be Afraid, We Shouldn’t Be Silent.

For any other narcissist who you may have to work with or interact with on a social level for whatever reason, it’s best to just avoid them. Getting hard evidence on these types of narcissists can be difficult because it usually takes being in a relationship and in their personal space to do this, and it is not worth it.

In the video below I share some tips as to how to stay ahead of the narcissists in your life.