For anyone who is new to understanding about narcissism, knowing who or what is a narcissist in the first place is very important. I define a narcissist as someone who has a deluded sense of self-importance and lacks empathy. There are many levels to narcissism that can range from benign to malignant. There are also narcissists who are Overt, meaning they are exhibitionists; they are openly arrogant and boastful. Then there are the Covert Narcissists who are more cunning with their narcissism and use a lot of manipulation, lies and gas-lighting to get their way. Covert Narcissists are hard to pin point as they tend to be well mannered and well presented. Only their partners or close relatives tend to know that they are indeed narcissists and trying to convince someone else that they are, is near impossible.
One thing for sure is that all narcissists have certain qualities or characteristics that define them. The only difference is that the Overt Narcissist is openly toxic to everyone whereas the Covert Narcissists traits are hidden or insidious.
All Narcissists Are:
SELFISH – They put their wants and needs over others. Whenever a narcissist is generous expect that they want something in return.
SELF ABSORBED: They think themselves more special and important than anyone else. They are strangely fascinated with themselves and their capabilities.
DELUSIONAL: The way they view people and life is not in touch with reality. Narcissists see things in black and white, there are no grey areas.
PATHOLOGICAL LIARS: They lie continually to support and maintain their false image and manipulate others.
LACKING IN EMPATHY: They lack emotional intelligence and struggle with inter-personal relationships.
POWER HUNGRY/CONTROL FREAKS: They love to control the people around them as they believe everyone else exists to serve them.
BLAME SHIFTERS: They do not like to take responsibility when things go wrong. The are not willing to take responsibility for their own mistakes.
PARANOID: They think everyone is out to get them or against them in some way. They constantly live in fear of being disrespected or attacked.
ATTENTIONS SEEKERS: They have an excessive need for attention and admiration. These give the narcissist supply and validate their false image.
DEMONICALLY POSSESSED: There is a darker force at work that controls their thoughts and actions.
Narcissists are here to stay by the looks of it, so knowing who they are and what signs to look for is very important. If only it was possible to live separate from these people but it’s not. One things is certain and it is that these people are evil and should not be dismissed as just mentally ill.
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Some of these traits seem to be similar to people with aspergers in how they behave. Is aspergers the beginnings of narcissism (or lead to)? How do you even know the difference?